Amish wedding season is in full swing. I was reminded of this yesterday speaking with an Amish friend about visiting Thursday – he had to stop to think if they had any weddings that day. Thankfully the schedule is clear, but it’s not uncommon to have multiple weddings to attend in a week, and even on the same day (Tuesday and Thursday being the traditional days for weddings).
This can vary from one community to the next. In some communities the brides will wear a black dress with white cape and apron. In our community, the bride chooses her color of dress, but wears a white cape and apron. Also in our church community, a bride wears a black covering to the wedding service. After she is married she changes to a white covering and won’t wear a black covering again. The unmarried girls wear black coverings to church services, but wear white coverings at all other times.
Daughter Elizabeth was married in a burgundy color dress and our daughter Susan chose a green dress. I hope this explains it well enough.
And who makes the dresses?
Some brides sew their own dresses, while other have their mother or someone else sew it. Daughter Elizabeth sewed her own wedding dress but I sewed Susan’s wedding dress. I made my own wedding dress but I didn’t have a choice in the color because all brides in that community wore black dresses with a white cape and apron to get married.
Lovina originally comes from the Swiss Amish settlement of Adams County, Indiana, if you’re wondering which community she’s referring to. For that matter the Swiss Amish have several of their own specific customs uncommon or unseen in non-Swiss communities.
She also describes the cape, an item which makes an appearance on female attendees at weddings:
It is the triangular piece of fabric that goes from the waist and over our shoulders and crosses in front. Then the apron is put over the bottom of the cape and belted around the waist. In our community capes are usually worn to church weddings and special occasions. For church, a white cape and apron is worn, but for a wedding we wear the same color cape and apron as our dress color and material, which we call a “dress suit.”
One more bit. Stephen Scott, in his book The Amish Wedding, shares an interesting detail on dresses at Amish weddings:
Samples of the wedding dress and second-best dress (worn alternately with the wedding dress for several months after the wedding) are made available to girls who preserve them in scrapbooks. (p. 36)
I’m not sure how prevalent this custom is (and where it’s most common), as this edition of Steve’s book has some years on it. But it’s a a good example of the importance of physical keepsakes in Amish culture. It must be a nice feeling to open a scrapbook years later and have an artifact of a loved one’s or special friend’s special day – one that you can actually touch.