81 responses to How do Amish discipline children?

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    kenhp1
    How do Amish discipline children? (January 30th, 2011 at 22:26)

    Maybe this is where we need to send our juvenile delinquents. Nothing were do seems to help.
    If they spent six months at an Amish school for delinquents, that may do the trick.
    I have met Amish children. They are polite, say yes sir, no sir. They wear their pants up, go to school, do not run the streets at night. They especially do not have that “you owe me attitude”.
    I hear when an Amish Father gets his strap you are in for it. I hear they don’t whoop chothes, they whoop butts. When they are finished the boy has a well tanned behind. They usually never do their misdeed again.
    Our “no spank” attitude has spawned a generation with no morale compass, run the street all night, rob, steel, burglarize, and totally run wild.

    How do Amish discipline children?

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      Briany
      Physical Discipline is not necessary (December 6th, 2011 at 12:57)

      Physical Discipline is not necessary

      I am old enough to have experienced the physical discipline of 50s parents and also to have known several contemporaries bring up their children by teaching, close contact and lots of communication. They would not dream of hitting anyone, including their children and feel it to be an uncivilised way to behave. This takes a lot of attention of the right sort and making sure the children are occupied. My neighbours moved in when their child was a toddler and all her screaming tantrums were dealt with calmly – this is often frustration at not having enough vocabulary – her parents quietly insisted and explained when she could understand. I noticed this lasting through her childhood and the encouragement of her decisions. She is mature, there was no teen rebellion, neither was she ever a naughty child, just a lively, ordinary, self assured child who respects but is not afraid of her parents. Beating, slapping, and all the other physical methods are repressive.
      I know many such young adults like this, having been held accountable for their actions which is what we as adults should ideally do. Neither do they run wild or rebel as teens because they are nurtured gently into adulthood. One of my nieces is just such a parent. Her children are responsible and think about their actions. I am afraid of people, being small, and sometimes other adults have slapped me, reacting to me as they would a child, because this is the only reason to hit a child – they are smaller and you get a quick fix of “good” behaviour through fear and the anger is repressed. My brother was beaten most days of his life, in school and at home. He just went wild once he had committed a “spanking offence” – might as well go the whole hog, so to speak. As an adult, he has had some very severe emotional difficulties but never laid a finger on his children. I was a minder and sitter for some years. I always found a way to deal with children much more effective than hitting, surprising how much just talking about behaviour, all our behaviour whatever age brings great results. Children need boundaries, guidance, attention and good examples but they dont need hitting – by the way, paddling or hitting on the buttocks can result in spinal damage – it sends shock waves through the spinal cord, a trivial bit of human anatomy?

      Physical Discipline is not necessary

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        Sarah
        How do Amish discipline children? (July 30th, 2012 at 15:32)

        i understand your frustrations with being hit and punished out of anger, i was too as a child. when my parents split up my mother was so mean and terrible and took it out on kids who were also going through a crazy life change. loosing dad at age 5 was devistating to me. i moved in with my dad at age 17, i hated my mom at that point. besides all that happend to me as a child, i am glad some kind of discipline was given or i would have been knocked up at 13 and drugged up and who knows what else. i’m thankful for parents who disciplined. on the other hand, i wish my mom spanked me out of love and for my well being like my father did. when i was a little older, i didn’t need a spanking anymore, just knowing i was disappointing my father was enough to make me break down in tears with so much regret with what i did. my father punished me lovingly, knowing that if he wasn’t mad when he spanked me and explained why i was being punished it would greatly benefit from it. i love the Amish people, they are the most pure form of Christians i know of in existence. god made us and knows all the hardships that come along with parenting, that is why the bible teaches how to discipline a child, and what you use discipline for. im sorry your parents didnt know how to use gods way and gods will in raising you and your brother, dont write off gods teachings because your parents never learned his lessons. i have 2 daughters and would never hit them or strike them out of anger.
        first, if she doesnt know what she is doing is wrong or just not rite, i let her know. if she does it again i will give her a stern reminder, if the behavior continues i ask her to go to her room while i pray for a few minutes about god guiding me through the discipline. sometimes a spanking comes of it and sometimes not. god always guides me where i need to go with it and im thankful for my beautiful daughters. My 5 year old pushes every boundry she can at all times. being a parent is not easy but it doesnt have to be a nightmare where people are hurting their kids emotionally because they are abusing them.

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          Beverly
          Beverly (December 11th, 2012 at 14:53)

          Beverly

          You are very right. Every child needs discipline. No child needs to be hit. When will parents understand that discipline is best done without hitting children. Please let us get rid of the cute little word “spank” and realize it just makes what you are doing (hitting your child) sound like something different. My parents never never hit us but believe me we were brought up with discipline. We were guided with love from parents who took the time to be there with us and for us. To talk with us and show us the right way to live by living the right way themselves! They always made it clear they were interested in what we did and what we would become. We were very blessed.

          Beverly

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            frody
            How do Amish discipline children? (March 12th, 2013 at 22:17)

            I was spanked out of love, and I don’t have any negative memories of my childhood from it. Infact, I had a great childhood! My siblings and I actually laugh about it and say “remember when blah, blah blah and mom spanked you? Haha!” It’s funny because we know we deserved it. I do however, remember to this day when a parent said something that hurt me emotionally. People who were never spanked should ask their parents what they actually had to go through to raise them. They may be surprised by the truth. I have seen siblings in the same household who were raised with a different set of discipline methods. The older two children were raised with traditional spanking methods, but by the time the younger child arrived, the parents wanted to try the new age no-spanking method. The older children were very well behaved, while the younger one behaved TERRIBLY! She was rude, complacent, and at age 8yrs, didn’t even hesitate to scream “will you get off my back?!” at her mother infront of guests, when her mother simply asked if she would say “hello.” while she was watching TV. I would never have dreamed to talk my parents like that. I also remember some of my friends who were raised with no-spanking discipline cursing at their parents infront of company. Not saying that some children can’t be raised with no-spanking methods, but they are probably mild mannered anyway. It is natural for children to try to test their limits of freedom. In some cases, like with a very headstrong child, appropriate physical guidance, (not excessive, abusive beating of course)gets faster results rather than allowing the child to go through years of deliquncy, before they learn the hard way.

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        chuck
        Nonsense isn't justified (September 5th, 2012 at 10:14)

        Nonsense isn't justified

        In relation to Briany’s post where she cites spinal cord damage from spanking, I must specifically call her out on that. There isn’t a medical doctor in the world who will back that statement up, since forcible spanks applied to the buttocks will cause pain, maybe some bruising, but no other injury of any type, if we are discussing a typical parental spanking.\

        To concoct such scare-tactic fiction is to totally undermine and devalue any good that might be in her post. Let’s move away from fiction and focus on what spanking is meant to do, and the millions of kids who have been parentally spanked with successful outcomes.

        Nonsense isn't justified

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          Beverly
          How do Amish discipline children? (December 11th, 2012 at 14:59)

          Replying to Chuck’s comment. You are misguided/ Hitting a child on the bottom can indeed cause spinal injury.I suggest you ask your doctor. And please get rid of that sweet little word “spank” and just say what you mean that you think it is fine to HIT your child. That is what you are doing. So if you feel it is the right thing to do shouldn’t you be man enough to say so. It is HITTING the child. And all it will teach your child is fear and anger and knowing that a larger person can HIT a smaller person and not fear getting HIT back.
          It makes abusive parents and wife beaters.

          How do Amish discipline children?

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        Becky Albritton
        Discipline in the Home/School (November 22nd, 2012 at 06:36)

        Discipline in the Home/School

        Spanking is not hitting. It is discipline out of love when done correctly. Parents like me use it as a last resort in cases of talking back, defiance, and disobedience. Abuse is when children are brought up in an un nurturing environment and they are starved of affection and love.
        I am a teacher in the public schools and see what the lack of “spanking” out of love is having on our society’s youth. It is making me question whether I should even send my own children to public school. They won’t allow us to spank anymore in schools.
        Nor do they allow students to clean up gum under the tables, write their offense a 100 times, or sit n a corner. For fear of embarrassing them. Students should be ashamed of their behavior.

        Thank you for your comments as I research discipline as a teacher.

        Discipline in the Home/School

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          Beverly
          How do Amish discipline children? (December 11th, 2012 at 15:03)

          Reply to Becky. Of course “spanking” is HITTING. If you applied the same force to another adult, that adult would say you HIT them. So you can not call it something else just because the person is small and unable to fight back. You are HITTING your Child.

          You were create repressed anger, and the child will feel HITTING someone smaller is ok. IT always is and creates domestic violence.

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            ash
            exactly (October 6th, 2013 at 00:51)

            exactly

            Exactly spare the rod means
            raise without guidelines
            spoil the child means
            The chikds potential for good is ruined

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          ash
          you are wrong (December 11th, 2012 at 19:14)

          you are wrong

          SPANKING IS HITTING PERIOD. You cant say its not. It is just just not hitting out of anger.

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            Natalie AlMassou
            Definition from the online free dictionary (October 17th, 2013 at 09:13)

            Definition from the online free dictionary

            spank   (spngk)v. spanked, spank·ing, spanksv.tr.To slap on the buttocks with a flat object or with the open hand, as for punishment.

            A couple things about spanking, some things that must be taken into consideration. Not all children are the same. Some are more sensitive then others and some are more strong willed than others. for example, I personally did not get spanked very much because I was an obedient willing child that wanted to please my parents and I wasn’t getting into mischief. My brothers on the other hand were constantly getting spanked not because I love was favored but simply because they were rambunctious strong willed and wanted to do their own thing even if it meant causing others harm.

            Also I would say one of the main problems with discipline gone wrong i.e. excessive or abusive spanking would be the anger issue in the parents. Many parents don’t know how to control their anger or have control issues and demand the children coming to their authority rather than lovingly guiding children to do what is right. Parents that try to make their children “perfect” by spanking for every little thing is outrageous. We were spanked on the bottom with a switch from a tree for only three things. Having a ongoing bad attitude being blatantly disobedient and Iying. If we broke a cup we were not disciplined. I am one of 8 children. I was raised by single mother and I have fantastic memories of my childhood I was never felt like I was abused and to this day I love my mom and she’s loving patient woman and she never once I hit us in anger. Again I would go back to the core issue, the
            parents need to deal with their anger and their control issues and have the wisdom to discern which children need stronger discipline and at what time it is appropriate. I was never the object of my parents anger but rather they took the time to lovingly train me what was right and what was wrong. Many people throughout my lifetime have told me that my parents did a good job training me. So the proof is in the pudding.

            Definition from the online free dictionary

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              ash
              my son again (October 17th, 2013 at 18:10)

              my son again

              My son isnt spanked. My mother used to but now that I am living with him he is good for me and she doesnt spank anymore. I usally just explain why he needs to stop. THe other day he was flipping out(he has anger control issues from being born autistic). I told him go to him room and calm down. He told me no 3 times. I repeated the order and refused to say anything else but “go t oyour room now and calm down. After the fourth time he went ot his room. He came back later and apologized. My mom couldn’t believe I didnt spank him the first time he said no but it worked and we both felt good.

              my son again

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                Guest32
                How do Amish discipline children? (April 3rd, 2014 at 09:03)

                To Ash:
                “The other day he was flipping out(he has anger control issues from being born autistic). I told him go to him room and calm down. He told me no 3 times. I repeated the order and refused to say anything else but “go to your room now and calm down. After the fourth time he went ot his room. He came back later and apologized.”
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                Not every child in question here is autistic. If your son is, that explains the anger control issues, as autistic children tend to have that. Yours is a special case, and I am sure you intend to guide him completely and patiently, even long into his adult years. He may not ever be employable.

                For most of us, we are talking typical children with no disorders at all to steer their behavior in such a way; and we are hoping one day they will be A) ready for school (not so if the teacher has to repeat an order 3 times and still hope for results) and B) can hold down a job (not so if the boss has to repeat an order 3 times and still only hope for results).
                Obedience and respect, for many of us, means: when the authority figure tells you to do something, you obey without numerous repeats needed.
                If numerous repeats ARE needed, that’s hardly successful.

                How do Amish discipline children?

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        Ann
        How do Amish discipline children? (November 22nd, 2012 at 06:54)

        Thank you to all comments

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        Corpal punishment of Amish children (November 26th, 2012 at 01:19)

        Corpal punishment of Amish children

        I do feel a mild tap on ones bottom may help remind a child they have not acted in a appropriate manner. But and I do mean but, I have heard that Amish realy hit their children, causing welts, bruising, and even bleeding at times. This I feel is cruel and only teaches fear. I also know they hide their dwarf children from public areas. Do to in reading they have a high rate of dwarfism. Why should these children live such a sad life. Because if their disability.they have a right alo to a happy life. wgmj@aol.com

        Corpal punishment of Amish children

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          Helen Decker
          Mennonite child abuse (June 13th, 2013 at 13:58)

          Mennonite child abuse

          I have a 35 year old male friend who was beaten to bleeding during his childhood, from age 3 to 17. This was regular punishment. He didn’t have much of a childhood in my opinion. The physical scars are still apparent, but the mental scars are deeper than you know. He has severe depression and schizotypal personality disorder among other things, as well as back problems…probably due to the beatings. This is his cross to bear for life….Thanks to his loving parents. He said this was typical in their community, and amongst all his cousins and friends. Wow. What love.

          Mennonite child abuse

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            Phillip
            Your friend - abused (June 14th, 2013 at 22:42)

            Your friend - abused

            Your friend was abused, perhaps tortured and has nothing to do with ordinary corrective discipline. I’m awfully sorry when I read about people who were treated worse than wild animals caught in cruel traps. The parents of this man should be prosecuted if still alive… and they can be under most current state laws.

            This is not discipline. It’s outright parental rage and sordid thinking. It’s a mental illness, and no sane parent would ever beat a child bloody. It has no logical purpose. “Correction” is simply a negative situation that leaves the child with the understanding that negative behavior has negative consequences.

            Your friend - abused

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      stephany
      How do Amish discipline children? (February 26th, 2012 at 23:32)

      There’s a reason corporal punishment is illegal, because it encourages fear and weakness. If i were an amish kid, i’d run away and never look back. And whoever said they should send JD to amish schools, you are a disturbed person because corporal punishment is still corporal punishment on someone who has been lent a bad hand in life.

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        Sarah
        How do Amish discipline children? (July 30th, 2012 at 15:44)

        i dont see how so many people can take gods teachings and not follow them and criticize other people for following gods instruction. Here is an idea for everyone to ponder… look at how much horror is in the world today, spanking a child for obedience is wrong? Amish are people who completely support themselves without any type of government aid or funding, they raise strong devoted children, have everything they need in life, serve god to a certain extent (the bible says to spread the word and Amish only share among themselves)they live happy lives, work hard, have well behaved children and everything they could ever want. i think the everyone is just jealous because they have been fed a so much crap over the last couple thousand years that they lost the true christian way of life. a joyous marvelous life that pleases god and makes their home in heaven an amazing one. all Christians will go to heaven, what will you bring with you when you go? not a house, not your money, not a single material thing. if you bring glory to god you bring so much more with you than… Eh, felt like not going to hell so i trust Jesus to get me to heaven. and to whoever says one swat on the but gets the point across.. what biblical backing do you have that says gettng the point across is all a child needs.. it says in solomon to punish until the will is broken.. so 2 to 4 usually does it for my 5 year old. if you have children maby you have soft willed children but i have a strong willed girl and it takes a couple swats.

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        Phillip Atwood
        Illegal? What are you talking about? (August 26th, 2012 at 14:02)

        Illegal? What are you talking about?

        You say corporal punishment is “illegal”. Where are you? Most all states in the USA not only allows physical discipline at home, but many still allow it in schools. It is the local school board that usually rules it may not be used.

        Watching the TV series about the Amish and the young men who decide to leave that life, it is clear their are the most highly focused, kind, generous and helping young men anyone could hope for. It they came to learn these values at the business-end of a leather strap, then it sure seems like a success to me!

        I was a product of the 50′s and 60′s and got the belt until age 10, then a leather strap that was made specifically for punishment of myself and my two brothers. We all got it up into high school, for me the last whipping was in my Junior year during the summer vacation.

        I hated it at the time but realize now how terribly beneficial it was. Boys in particular tend to be difficult to control and words seldom really keep them in line when temptation looms. Knowing the Strap would be their “reward” for getting too far out of step kept me and my brothers on pretty good behavior, getting good grades and staying away from other boys who were clearly headed for problems.

        Illegal? What are you talking about?

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          Beverly
          How do Amish discipline children? (December 11th, 2012 at 15:12)

          Reply to Phillip. No state allows you to hit your child with belt or whips. Some still allow you to you the flat of your hand on the bottom. Texas and Mississippi allow 2 hits with the paddle.

          I live in Ohio where more Amish live then PA. Look it up. And Some Amish are nice people just like any group of people. Some are very inbred which creates a very high degree of birth defects. Much higher then the non Amish Community. They only go to school until 8th grade. Many are illiterate. There is also a very large degree of domestic violence. More so then non Amish. Again Look it up. Study. Find out the truth before you speak. All is not sunshine and light.

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            Traci Banville
            How do Amish discipline children? (December 12th, 2012 at 02:57)

            There are plenty of illiterate high school graduates in the world. The Amish are voracious readers and there is nothing wrong with being self-educated along with formal schooling. They also speak two languages which is admirable in itself.

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          ash
          How do Amish discipline children? (December 11th, 2012 at 19:18)

          My uncle lives in Pa and he spanked his daughter till her butt was red and got arrested. My mother has foster children and the social worker told us doing anything that hurts the child physically or emotionally is abuse including spanking.

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      Sarah Tall
      How do Amish discipline children? (March 24th, 2013 at 22:24)

      I agree with you we should discipline our children without fear. Did you ever think about the constitution when it says congress shall make no law concerning the freedom of religion. That means it’s practices as well. So if disciplining your child is something you feel strongly that you are going against the your religious beliefs if you don’t and someone tells you you cant do that they are going against the constitution.

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    • I neither agree nor disagree on corporal punishment

      I just want to say that both sides seem to be extremists on their view points. I grew up in the 1950s and 60s and we were disciplined when we misbehaved. I have felt the intense sting of the razor strap on my bare backside more times than I want to remember, and it was anything but pleasant, believe me, but I turned out just fine. My siblings and the neighborhood kids and me we got into trouble here and there, but nothing like the lawless kids of today, it seems obvious to me now thart in almost every case, the bad seed was from a broken family and the parent that raised him/her did not use that kind(if any)discipline. My feeling is then, if a parent can objectively say that they are spanking their child with absolute love and out of dire necessity, then it should be their right to do so.

      I neither agree nor disagree on corporal punishment

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    Lindsay
    How do Amish discipline children? (February 4th, 2011 at 14:30)

    I’m not sure if a “no spank” culture really is the root of the problem more so than just plain inattentiveness to the children period in our culture. With both parents or the single parent working much of the time kids are left to their devices more often. It doesn’t matter the background…I know it’s ancedotal but the kids whose parents were more involved in their lives tend to behave better than ones whose parents weren’t. Conversely, parents who refuse to think of their kids as anything other than their little darling who does no wrong aren’t doing their child any favors either.

    There is a much greater focus on children and family in Amish culture…and I think more of a community effort in raising kids as well. I don’t think you see that kind of support system as much in our culture anymore.

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      Ashley
      i agree (September 7th, 2012 at 12:10)

      i agree

      My son lives with me and my mother. He is kind,polite and doesn’t mouth off when he is at my house. he is bratty and rude for my mother. The difference?
      I don’t spank she does
      and I talk to him one on one she has 4 other kids.
      the effort you put in is the effort you get out. Also as long as he is not being rude I allow him to say he disagrees or that my decision makes him mad. My mother does not allow any talk back at all. Children are human and have to be able to express their opinion as long as the are being respectful. So many parents either let them get away with not being respectful or they do not let them express anger. How many parents say ” use your words dont hit then spank when they get mad. or get angry when the child says you make me so mad mommy.” This is an unnecessary double standard.

      i agree

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        Becky
        How do Amish discipline children? (November 22nd, 2012 at 06:47)

        You should give consequences for your child “mouthing off” to your family members. That is disrespect. Children pick up on when you do not approve of others and mirror your attitude towards others. Talking about it is always done after a correct spanking. Again, when done correctly, it is not abuse. Read, “Don’t Make Me Count to Three.” It is a wonderful book.

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          ash
          How do Amish discipline children? (December 11th, 2012 at 19:24)

          there is a difference between saying “No mommy I wont” and something like going to my room makes me mad but I will do it cause you said so.”

          I was told I was never allowed to say anything back and it made me feel worthless and repressed. My mother didn’t even know I was sensitive till i was almost 16 and I had been depressed for years.

          As long as the child does not do it to be rude it should be allowed.
          It obviously works because he is a good boy for me and needs meds to control himself at my moms.

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      Beverly
      How do Amish discipline children? (December 11th, 2012 at 15:18)

      Comment to Lindsey: I believe it is correct when you say a lack of attention to the children is far more important! This is key to good parenting. HITTING kids doesn’t help.

      Also please learn more about the Amish. I am not against them. But I live in Ohio and we have more Amish then PA. Plain City,OH, Berlin Oh, etc. The Amish are like any culture. Good and bad. They do not educate children well. They often consider them as more workers for the farm then anything else. The fathers can be quite stern and cold to both children and wife. The wives are very controlled by the husband. They have very strict rules. They are very judgmental. health often suffers for lack of seeking good care. They spend little money on anything for the kids health or well being. The marry first cousins alot. That is why the birth defect rate is so extordinarily high. All is not wonderful.

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        Marcus Yoder
        How do Amish discipline children? (December 16th, 2012 at 08:25)

        Can you give me any names and birth dates of any Amish first cousin’s that are married,as I study Amish geneaolgy.I have run across where Amish were related more than one way, but never first cousin’s.By the way Plain City,Ohio only has about five elderly widows left in the area.
        Marcus Yoder

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    Bob Rosier
    How do Amish discipline children? (February 4th, 2011 at 21:55)

    I have to agree with Lindsay. Many problems can be attributed to inattentiveness to ones children. We have learned how important it is for the mother to be at home to raise their children.
    My daughter is a child Psychologist and has worked with kids for years. She is always telling them “hitting is not an option”. One mother believed in spanking as a necessary part of discipline until one day she observed her three- year-old daughter hitting her one-year-old son. When confronted, her daughter said, “I’m just playing mommy.”
    Physical punishment shows that it’s all right to vent your anger or right a wrong by hitting other people. This is why we find an increase in the number of bullies. Time outs or sitting inside during recess is a much better approach.

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    Lindsay
    How do Amish discipline children? (February 5th, 2011 at 08:59)

    Bob, the one that always worked on me when I was little was no dessert LOL! I think my mom discovered I could entertain myself in time out but heaven forbid dessert! Children are individuals, so I suppose you just have to find out what discipline methods work with them. What worked with me didn’t necessarily work with my sisters and vice versa. I really have to hand it to the involved parents…they certainly have to be creative and stay one step ahead of the game.

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    Bob Rosier
    How do Amish discipline children? (February 5th, 2011 at 12:02)

    Lindsay..I would say that you will be, are, or were a good parent. And yes, I forgot about the times my mom used the dessert method. She always had a great dessert for supper. I’ll have to ask my Amish friends if they have used that method.

    Kids are definately different today which you would expect with their changing environment, so as you said, you have to keep trying things until you find one that works.

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    rod
    agree with amish/disagree with (April 17th, 2011 at 08:56)

    agree with amish/disagree with

    I agree with the amish in the displine,, of their children,, the objections that i read here,, of a child saying”I’m just playing mommy” this family has shown anger to the child while displine being asmistered,, (no remorse for having to do this to the child),,A child comes into this world out of love for whatever reason, but love,,and should be treated with love, this doesn’t mean NO DISPLINE, and that it shouldn’t include physical,some love is harder to administer than others but all should be done out of love for our children,, not out of anger,frustration,or other things, than love for our children to be the best,caring and loving adult,,as well as responisble people who can say i did wrong and accept whatever happens to them and then go on to correct their behavor, and be a better person,,tooo many johnny don’t do that or u will not get desert,, so before long he decieds, ok so i don’t get desert,, who cares,, and that continues into bigger things,,back to the disipline,, spare the rod, who cares if it doesn’t really hurt me,, untill they end up dead!!!, crippled!! or in jail!! and still jail is just another way for them to only be without desert, so I am still in teaching a child disipline with the rod and love.

    agree with amish/disagree with

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    Ashley
    I agree with everyone in differant ways (April 30th, 2012 at 15:15)

    I agree with everyone in differant ways

    I agree with everyone in different ways on this one. I was raised in the 90′s and early 2000′s and spanking was a natural part of our lives. We got talked to and then spanked. I personally do not believe in this for most children. I don’t use it for my son but I do swat my nephew when he needs it. He is 2 years old and when he gets violent. He does get violent. Hitting,scratching and biting. One open hand swat on the bottom gets the point across without hurting him more then is necessary. My son never had that problem and the “cool down room” works great for him. I talk to him when he is ready. I believe it depends on the child. NO CHILD SHOULD EVER BE PADDLED, STRAPPED OR SPANKED BARE. One open hand swat on the seat of their pants is enough to snap them out of the mis behavior and it gets the point across.

    I agree with everyone in differant ways

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    allivina
    amish spanking (June 29th, 2012 at 14:16)

    amish spanking

    i come from russia and we spank with a whip bare and it works great but i think different methods are for different parents

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      ash
      re Amish speaking (December 11th, 2012 at 19:27)

      re Amish speaking

      I do not agree with that at all. Its wrong for horses and its wrong for child.

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    Michael
    school spanking (October 14th, 2012 at 15:40)

    school spanking

    When I was a kid in school teachers had a paddle in their classrooms and would use when needed. They had to have another teacher witness and fill out a card with the offense and number of swats. The worst thing ever done was allowing it to be taken out of schools because you almost never saw the stuff going on in schools then that you do today.

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    How do Amish discipline their children. (November 25th, 2012 at 17:36)

    How do Amish discipline their children.

    I think children do need the spankings and discipline, that’s what’s wrong with the children today, so many disobey and don’t listen, they run the parents lives, the grandparents as well. I was disciplined and knew from right and wrong, I am fine and am proud I was raised as I was. I’m not a drunk, a dope , a murder, I am a decent person. My parents are proud parents and I’m thankful for that. I know how to have respect for my elders, as a lot of children and adults don’t now days. I don’t like hearing children talking back to their parents and their grandparents. They have anger issues and throw things. Curse, and sometimes even hit and beat their parents and grandparents this is so wrong, this is why schools have so many problems, there is no paddles, when there should be. There is a difference between spanking, paddles and beatings, and it should be legal that a parent should not have to be scared to spank a child. The Bible dies say do not spare the rod and spoil the child, and if tr child is not spanked, then most children does as they want and is a spoiled brat. Which is a bad thing for this world. Look around, these kids are in lots of trouble before teens and even worse as teens and young adults, they don’t know what to do with theirselves and are lazy, disrespectful, and have no care of others. It’s a shameful world out there.

    How do Amish discipline their children.

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      Beverly
      How do Amish discipline children? (December 11th, 2012 at 15:23)

      Reply to Tracy: It is unfortunate no one was able to teach you spelling or grammar.

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        Lattice
        How do Amish discipline children? (December 11th, 2012 at 16:01)

        Gosh, Beverly! BE NICE!!

        We’ll work on ours if you’ll work on yours.

        Copied and pasted:

        “You were create repressed anger”
        “I live in Ohio where more Amish live then PA.”
        “Much higher then the”
        “More so then non Amish.”
        “for the farm then anything else.”
        “The marry first cousins alot.”

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          Beverly
          How do Amish discipline children? (December 11th, 2012 at 16:46)

          There is never a reason to “be nice” when children are being abused.

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          How do Amish discipline children? (December 11th, 2012 at 17:28)

          Beverly: quit the personal insults and stick to the topic, or take it somewhere else.

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            Beverly
            How do Amish discipline children? (December 11th, 2012 at 19:41)

            who are you Erik? The Comment police? I have been on topic.

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              How do Amish discipline children? (December 11th, 2012 at 19:52)

              Beverly, in answer to your question, this is my site, so unfortunately yes sometimes I am forced to be the “Comment Police”. Here are two of your comments from above, in full:

              “Comment to Rod Gee Rod, learn to spell”

              “Reply to Tracy: It is unfortunate no one was able to teach you spelling or grammar.”

              Those are nothing more than off-topic, personal attacks which add nothing to this discussion. The topic is worth discussing without that. Make your argument on the merits or not at all.

              How do Amish discipline children?

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                Beverly
                How do Amish discipline children? (December 11th, 2012 at 22:06)

                Whooo! This site seems dedicated to people who approve of and encourage child abuse. My “rude” comments are in response to that! If you consider that a discussion then you may have a problem yourself. I intend to report your site. And perhaps some of those who feel it is appropriate to strap and beat children and call it Christian need to be exposed as well.
                I have nothing more to contribute to this site. However, I think it does need to be reported.

                How do Amish discipline children?

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                  Phillip Atwood
                  How do Amish discipline children? (December 13th, 2012 at 13:25)

                  Where does one “report” a site?
                  What law prevails in that case?
                  I’ve never heard of any way one can “report” a web site they have come to visit of their own free will, however if you are getting messages from the site and have elected to have them cease but they continue to be sent, then you may have a case for complaint under the spam rules.
                  Please post the address where you are sending your complaint. Thank you.

                  How do Amish discipline children?

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                  Traci Banville
                  @ Beverly (December 15th, 2012 at 22:56)

                  @ Beverly

                  Auf weidersehen !

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            Phillip Atwood
            Erik - voice of reason (December 16th, 2012 at 17:04)

            Erik - voice of reason

            Glad you added the comment. People with an agenda often infiltrate an otherwise logical thread of messages with demands that everyone agrees with them or suffer insults. We have seen this with some Republicans who, after the Presidential election, continued to spew acrid venom and are doing it even now, two months plus down the road.

            If the people do not agree with you, be gracious enough to just move-on instead of throwing insults (itself a sign of ignorance and horrible issues from childhood)

            I’m still waiting to find out where one goes to “report” a web site because some messages are not in harmony with another user. I asked the question but unlike other comments I’ve made which favor some use of spanking from time to time, nobody is sending back a response with the URL or EMail address where “reports” of persons not in agreement with your views, can be submitted for… something. The person making the threat to “report” some of us didn’t say what this mysterious “reporting” will cause.

            The Internet is free to use but web sites are owned by real people and when someone comes along and posts absurd demands that everyone agree with them or ELSE.. then it’s time for the site owner’s to just block that use. If you phone a radio talk program and create mayhem over and over again, they eventually just refuse to put you on the air.

            So, one more time… to the person who is “reporting” all of us who disagree with their views… please tell us WHERE and HOW this “report” is filed so we can go read it!

            Thank you.

            Erik - voice of reason

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        ash
        reply to bev on tracy reply (December 11th, 2012 at 19:31)

        reply to bev on tracy reply

        OR THAT HITTING IS WRONG

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    Jonathan Quimbly
    Break them early! (December 17th, 2012 at 19:25)

    Break them early!

    English, it is important that you break the child early. Otherwise it will grow to become a monster, willful and with its own mind.

    An unpunished child will leave the flock, as sure as can be! You must respond to the childs tests of your will with strength.

    Spare the rod, spoil the child.

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    See Both Sides
    See Both Sides (December 21st, 2012 at 20:48)

    See Both Sides

    The Amish are more likely than most to walk the walk rather than just talk the talk. At the same time, the life is not for everyone. Although it rarely happens, one woman I know left her Amish roots because of a paddling she received. Others have also told me that most Amish girls have had the rebellion beaten out of them before they marry. That is one reason why the Amish experienced an exponential growth in population during the 20th century.

    One the other side of the equation, non-Amish women in the United States see the traditional role of wife and mother as beneath them. Many have never had a spanking in their lives. Even after graduating from college, they know more about how to make their bosses rich, while working for less money than men, than they do about staying married. While there are exceptions, far too many non-Amish women these days seem adrift.

    See Both Sides

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    Julie
    OK to spank (January 17th, 2013 at 23:06)

    OK to spank

    I was spanked naked with a whip when I was little, and I turned out fine. Maybe if more kids were disciplined like this we wouldn’t have so much crime today.

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    Phillip Atwood
    Moderation (January 17th, 2013 at 23:49)

    Moderation

    Just read comment by “Julie” stating she was spanked with a whip when little. That sounds harsh, but people tend to have different names for things used to spank, so perhaps the “whip” was not as nasty as… for example… a horsewhip. (I hope not)

    The point Julie makes is shared by me. I only need go back to when I was in school and remember the things we just never even **thought** of doing, from mouthing-off to a teacher, to using vulgar language at home or in school. Today, kids have so many “rights” that they can light-up in the school, tell a teacher to screw-off and make their own hours at home.

    Thinking back, I KNOW the one thing that always made me err on the side of caution when not sure if what I was about to do is okay, was the though of the whipping I’d get at home if I made a wrong choice. A few days ago I was looking at my high school yearbook and laughing at the photo of a Student Patrol member measuring the distance from floor to hem of a dress to make sure the girl was “proper”. I’m not sure if a Student Patrol exists in most schools today because it would be “Nazi Power” run by “narcs”. Having a Dress Code would be unconstitutional, even though nobody even though of it as such 40 years ago… and would have not dared to argue about it. We were taught decency, not ways to worm around by manipulating laws to our personal benefit.

    A handgun in school? That’s one of the things nobody would have even thought of doing because it was just WRONG… plus if one of the guys had brought a gun to school just for a joke, he would have been so severely punished at home (after getting paddled in school) that it would have been brutal by today’s standards.

    The fact is, people LEARN from fear of punishment, until they reach an age where their brain is developed enough to make logical decisions on it’s own. (Which is well after age 25 for most of us)
    When they look back, they realize their mature decision surprisingly matches the one they made out of fear of being spanked.

    On the other side of the fence, I’m not real happy about some reading I’ve done on the Amish where it is assumed that all of the “rebellious nature” of WOMEN has been beaten out of them by the time they marry… and if not, their new husband will whip it out of them afterwards. A young friend who got both strap and switch at home as a teen in the 90′s told me: “My father whips me until the rebellious BEHAVIOR has been broken, but NEVER so much that my SPIRIT has been broken”.

    I think that must have been a good home. He’s a very successful young man today, married now, has a son of his own and yes… he will whip when he really feels it necessary. The boy idolizes him.

    Moderation

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      Loreli
      Phillip Atwood Comment - Moderation (March 16th, 2013 at 17:05)

      Phillip Atwood Comment - Moderation

      I remember those days well, Mr. Atwood -except for the measuring of the hemline (my aunt probably would). To embarrass my parents by acting out in a school was nothing short of a sin. I could take anything except “do you want us to call your parents?” which happened only once. I don’t undertatand why people equate swats on the backside with abuse. I don’t agree with belts or paddles but getting a few swats with a wooden spoon never killed me. Coming from an Irish heritage, there was never an argument about a swat on the butt or a smack on the hand to remind one to not touch, or to not be told again (after the third time). Again, I am not talking about slaps in the face or being beaten with belts and whips, that just isn’t in my realm of discipline. Bit people really need to stop equating a normal spanking with child abuse. It’s insulting to anuone who was truly abused.

      Phillip Atwood Comment - Moderation

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    Paul
    Amish and discipline (February 5th, 2013 at 20:15)

    Amish and discipline

    I have absolute respect and admiration for the lives the Amish lead.

    They live productive, self-sufficient lives and they raise well mannered children who from an early age learn values, respect and the love of their family.

    I am in the UK and would have loved to have been brought up in such an institution that taught me these values at an early age. My mother never used any form of discipline and because of this my lessons were hard learned at a much later age which did me no good.

    Amish and discipline

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    Debra Bontrager
    Comment on How do Amish discipline children (March 2nd, 2013 at 05:37)

    Comment on How do Amish discipline children

    My mother was brought up in a strict Amish household, where beatings and I mean beatings were the normal. My mother’s sister was beaten so badly she had detached retinas and broken eardrums. These type of beatings are not typical in the Amish community but like in the English society it does exist to a small degree. Fianlly, the neighbors saw the bruises and boken bones from the beating and turned my Grandfather in to the law; he served 5 years in prison. The sad thing was, there is no support system for Amish women to go to..the man is the head of the household, that is the way it is. This happened in the 1950′s to 1960′s.

    Comment on How do Amish discipline children

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      Loreli
      Debra's Comment -Beaten aunt (March 16th, 2013 at 16:52)

      Debra's Comment -Beaten aunt

      Debra, I am so sorry to hear about your aunt. That is devastating. Thank you for your honesty and candor. I have heard many things about the Amish over the past several years, but really knew nothing about them. I watched a show about the Amish recently, and it showed how the Amish women are expected and raised to be submissive. I don’t know what your childhood was like but I pray that it was better than your aunt and mother’s was. I received normal swats in the backside growing up from my father, mostly because he could no longer tolerate us kids arguing. One thing we did learn though, no meant no. So you’d better have a good reason for asking for something or arguing about it. My father was in law enforcement for over 30 years,
      and he never felt that our happiness was worth more than our personal safety. He was right.

      Debra's Comment -Beaten aunt

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    Phillip Atwood
    Debra's comment - beaten Aunt (March 3rd, 2013 at 03:12)

    Debra's comment - beaten Aunt

    This is why CP has such a bad reputation. There are always crazies out there who do the bizarre, and general people who read a shocking tale such as what you posted, then believe that’s what CP is all about.

    Yesterday, I had someone here to do some clean-up work for extra money. He is an EMT and also a part-time police officer looking for a full-time position. He asked where I attended academy (I was a part-time police officer) and when I told him the location, he commented “Oh yeah, that used to be a boy’s reformatory, right?” I said it was indeed, up through the late sixties. I added “The young people who were sent there learned how to behave the hard way. I’ve see the room and the bench where a kid was stripped, secured belly-down, and took a strapping as punishment for getting out of line”.

    He is only 21 years old, but he nodded understanding and said “They learned to behave fast, too”. He went on to comment that he never was tied down but he took a fair share of the belt to his bare butt and maybe that’s why he’s trying to be a public servant, helping others as both an ambulance crew member, and when an opportunity comes along, as a law enforcement officer.

    My opinion of the guy went up about 100 points. He’s a good person, works hard, listens to what he’s told to do, and carries out the job without a single complaint.

    Yeah, he’s “damaged” from being spanked as a kid. Everyone should be that “damaged”.

    Debra's comment - beaten Aunt

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    On the fence about (March 19th, 2013 at 03:25)

    On the fence about

    My mother told me stories of her step dad using a board with holes drilled into it on her and her brother and sisters when they were young.She said it wasn’t abuse but,she would smack me with anything handy whether it was a hairbrush or a piece of driftwood type of small log.She was not a happy person after her mom and step dad divorced when she was in high school.She had me at age 23,then fast forward approximately 18 plus years and has my little half sister and not even a year later came my little half brother.I was sent to live with my dad’s sister in another state when I was 14 and she raised me through age 20.All she had to do was say that she was disappointed with me and it worked out alright in the end.My mother treats those kids like they are a little prince and a little princess.I stayed at her house when they were younger(about 2 and 3 years old),she had a glass curio cabinet behind a couch in the corner and the little boy had a shoe and looked like he was going to hit the cabinet with the shoe,so I popped him on his diaper to get him to not throw the shoe and she acted like I’d done something absolutely unforgivable by popping him on his diaper very lightly.Now the boy is 6 and the girl is going to be 7 on the 23rd.They cuss,spit,hit,break things out of anger and my mother still refuses to do anything about their behavior,when she threatened to beat me IN FRONT OF A SOCIAL WORKER!The doctor said it would not hurt them to give them a little swat to get the point across.It’s amazing how people can change from the first child to the third child.Discipline is good if not taken over board.Sometimes all it takes is talking or being really disappointed to get the point across.

    On the fence about

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    Stephanie Rollins
    Spare the rod (April 21st, 2013 at 13:50)

    Spare the rod

    FYI: “Spare the rod, spoil the child is NOT in the Bible. It is from a poem that was written in the 1800′s. I hate it when people misquote the Bible.

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      ash
      yes it is in the bible (April 21st, 2013 at 21:39)

      yes it is in the bible

      it is in the bible but they are talking about a child that is not right from wrong is done a great wrong not beat your kids with a rod

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    Debra Bontrager
    ? (April 21st, 2013 at 15:27)

    ?

    The abuse that took place in my mother’s childhood home was just not given to my Aunt it was all 9 children. All of these children whom are adults now have physical scars as well as mental. However, like I stated this is not the norm for Amish communities. This situation happen in the 1940′s and 1950′s.

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    See Both Sides
    How do Amish discipline children? (April 23rd, 2013 at 19:40)

    Sometimes, the pendulum of fashion swings from one extreme to another and never pauses in the middle. A few decades ago, it was okay to give badly behaved kids a good hard spanking. These days, some parents are often afraid to lay a hand on their kids.

    While abuse will break a child’s spirit, lack of appropriate discipline creates little monsters with an exaggerated sense of entitlement. Regardless of religious persuasion, parents need to find a middle ground.

    How do Amish discipline children?

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      Dave Wyman
      How do Amish discipline children? (November 30th, 2013 at 01:05)

      “See Both Sides wrote:

      “These days, some parents are often afraid to lay a hand on their kids.”

      I never feared spanking my kids. Neither I nor my wife ever did so, though. And that was a few days ago, not “these days.”

      Our kids are great, so are the children of parents who were and are our friends, who didn’t resort to physically hurting their children, either.

      There may be some things about the Amish to admire. Their use of corporeal punishment isn’t one of them.

      How do Amish discipline children?

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    Phillip Atwood
    Abuse vs. Discipline (April 24th, 2013 at 19:04)

    Abuse vs. Discipline

    Thank you to “See Both Sides” for post on 23rd April. I know a person who received CP through his teens years. Harsh words or backtalk to his mother earned him the duty of cutting three switches off the stand of Birch trees in the back yard and getting one of them used on his bare bottom that evening.

    Other issues got him the leather strap on the bare butt in his bedroom, belly-down on the bed.

    I asked him “How many licks do you get?” and he smiled and politely responded: “Enough to break a bad habit, but never so much that it breaks my spirit”. He went on to say he tnanks Lord Jesus for such wonderful parents and accepts his punishment without question.

    He attended a Baptist Bible school (full time) from fifth grade through high school graduation. Parents were encouraged to use CP moderately, fairly and if unsure what to do, to speak with school staff or their Minister for guidance.

    The person is now in his 30′s, married and with a son who is also being raised with the same CP, and they live in the same house Joe was raised in so the walk to the Birch trees is an identical experience for his son as it was for Joe. The boy is now in third grade and a very bright, outgoing kid. Joe has become an aviation professional and is regarded by flight students as level-headed, a great listener, and always with an encouraging word.

    Obviously, something was done right.

    Abuse vs. Discipline

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      See Both Sides
      How do Amish discipline children? (April 25th, 2013 at 07:35)

      Among the parents most likely to mess-up in disciplining are those exclusively focused on the child rearing verses in Proverbs. For some of those parents, beating the devil out of the child is the only solution. At the other extreme, there are those parents willing to try anything except spanking.

      One of the strengths in the Amish communities is a general agreement on discipline that is absent in the broader spectrum of American society. Most of America is focused on competition rather than cooperation. Thus, in the end, secular America may divide and conquer itself in its mad scramble to be king of the hill.

      In the collective sense, America is on the path to answering the question posted by Matthew 16:26: “For what is a man profited, if he shall gain the whole world, and lose his own soul? or what shall a man give in exchange for his soul?”

      How do Amish discipline children?

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        Phillip Atwood
        Competition vs. Cooperation (April 25th, 2013 at 11:51)

        Competition vs. Cooperation

        The concept of learning to work alongside one another has been lost, unless it’s working as a team to “win” something in a sport event. Aside from competitive sport, there is very little direction given to young people on how to interact in everyday life in a desire to assist and support others.

        I think it must be comforting for Amish children to all receive similar discipline. As a child, the concept of corporal punishment was very much alive and well and most of the boys I grew up with openly discussed their latest “whipping”. Sometimes, it was out of bravado, but I think we were all pretty honest about it and there was a common bond and empathy when “one of the guys” got spanked with the belt at home. We all rallied around him, gave support, and everyone understood what it was all about.

        Today, if a kid says he got hit by a parent. his friends would either dismiss it as nonsense, or offer to find him a lawyer so he can sue his folks. It’s bizarre, and a bit sick. The message is: “If you lose the game, sue the coach so you will still win something”.

        Very bad teaching.

        Competition vs. Cooperation

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    fg789
    How do Amish discipline children? (August 10th, 2013 at 14:25)

    We spank our kids. And we are not Amish. But like them, I believe in the Bible and the same type of punishment. What amazes me is how modern day parents talk about how bad their kids are, and how they should just send them somewhere to learn obedience. As if they are just dogs.

    The reason kids are bad today is because parents are unfit. First of all. Because corporal punishment isn’t in schools is enough to tell me many parents who are sending their children there are unfit. Kids MUST have punishment. The kind that they want to avoid at all costs. Kids grow into their environment. They become spiritually rooted in it. So regardless of what they learn in their later years, they will always be deeply rooted in their childhood upbringing. So by forcing them to walk the right path, they will become of it. And when they see just how screwed up modern society is, they will be thankful they were forced.

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      See Both Sides
      How do Amish discipline children? (August 10th, 2013 at 20:54)

      Having grown up at a time when paddling was accepted, I believe there are actually some significant difficulties with paddling in American schools. When I was in school, my parents knew most of my teachers. In fact, despite living in one of the largest cities in the state, my mother was in the same Sunday School class with my second grade teacher and elementary school principal. In other words, there were neighborhood schools. Because parents often had some social contact with teachers outside of the schoolhouse, there was a certain amount of trust between parents and educators.

      Most of the time these days, parents know little or nothing about who is teaching their kids. News stories about sexual abuse of students by teachers does little to inspire confidence.

      Although it can be time consuming, some of the better teachers are getting around the paddling restrictions in schools by getting parents involved in the disciplinary process. Correctly used, paddling by proxy can greatly improve classroom discipline because parents are limited by just giving three swats on the seat of the pants or dress. Once Little Johnny or Suzie knows that their mom will get a call from the teacher and they will get their buns busted if they become disruptive, they are more inclined to behave themselves.

      How do Amish discipline children?

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    Brian Meyer
    Spare the rod (October 4th, 2013 at 11:32)

    Spare the rod

    Of course it’s all open to interpretation, but the meaning of Rod I think has transformed and is different in our current translation than the original intent.

    The rod spoken of in the bible was what a shepherd used to herd sheep. This was not used to beat sheep, but rather to protect them, and to lead them. The stick was used to find safe ground and spot holes in the rough ground that could hurt them. The crook ( hook ) was used to pull animals by the legs out of dangerous situations.

    This passage does not mean beat a child, it means a parent must shepherd their children, or they might be spoiled, keep the predators away and pull them to safety.

    I like the idea though, of the teacher only having paddled once, disliking having to do it, yet willing to do anything for the kids. This to me speaks of love. The issue is when parents do this not out of love and a last resort, but out of frustration. Most kids never will need a paddling, yet some kids most likely could use it.

    Spare the rod

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    Jessica
    Spanking as a last resort (January 6th, 2014 at 09:15)

    Spanking as a last resort

    In my opinion I think spanking should be a last resort, when nothing else has worked to help that child be respectful, and when he/she is acting like a wild animal.
    What I don’t like seeing is parents who spank/beat their children for every little thing, for poor grades, for accidently looking at them the wrong way, for practically breathing, e.c.t, that is what disgusts me. Those who do this to their children are bullying them, despite what anybody says. On one particular forum I recall reading a revolting comment by a father who wacked his daughter’s behind seven-eight times with a wooden spoon and then made her hold some books in her hands and stand there for an hour, and why? Because she got poor grades. Now that is abuse, and any parent who calls that discipline, who condones that sort of disgusting behavior, should be so ashamed of themselves. That little girl is going to be so mentally and emotionally damaged, and I just hope that she doesn’t marry someone like her pathetic father. These parents are the ones who shouldn’t have children as far as I’m concerned. These are the parents who should have DCP on their doorstep, they are the ones who should be questioned and held accountable for terrorizing their children, not those who are parenting out of fairness and love.
    I know you’ve all heard this before, but there is, I’m so sure of it, a difference between spanking a child who’s pushed and pushed and pushed, and spanking a child for not getting good grades, or not sitting up straight enough, or not eating all of their vegetables, or something small and trivial like that. We have to weigh it up and have a real good think about it.

    Spanking as a last resort

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      See Both Sides
      How do Amish discipline children? (January 6th, 2014 at 13:25)

      Professionalized and bureaucratized child protection can be as much of a problem for children as abusive parents. Only a few months ago, a California court found that state’s Child Protective Services had twisted the supposed victim’s words in order to fabricate a case against her parents. The court’s full decision may be found at:

      http://www.courts.ca.gov/opinions/documents/H038241.PDF

      Footnotes 3, 4, 5 and 6 as found on pages 5, 6 and 7 are particularly revealing. So are the mother’s statements on Page 3 and in footnote 4 on page 6.

      More recently, a foster child in the care of a Social Service supervisor in North Carolina was found handcuffed to the the supervisor’s front porch with a DEAD CHICKEN AROUND HIS NECK! For more on that story, go to:

      http://www.wral.com/sheriff-dss-worker-arrested-after-boy-found-handcuffed-to-porch-with-dead-chicken-around-neck/13117884/

      All too often, those opposed to spanking are either childless or are in a position to make money from alternatives. For the most part, the Amish seem to be on the right track in their disciplinary philosophy.

      How do Amish discipline children?

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    Russ Vollmer
    Really. (February 12th, 2014 at 02:46)

    Really.

    This is like saying maggots spontaneously hatch from rotten meat.

    The fact is maggots do not result from rotten meat. There is a whole other reason why this happens. (flies land and lay eggs).

    So saying spanking results in respect is an error in observation and logic.

    These children are taught to respect themselves, their families, their community members, God, and their environment. They learn how to be helpful, polite, kind, obedient, and good people by watching and observing the behaviors of those around them. Spanking does not instill respect. It instills the counter or opposite of respect which is fear.

    Where there is a great deal of fear there is a great deal of lying, hiding, sneaking around, and rebelling even in these communities.

    Observing surfacely without any real depth is like observing the rotten meat producing maggots. You did not see the real reason the maggots were there. You came to a conclusion based on flawed logic.

    Really.

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    Guest32
    How do Amish discipline children? (April 3rd, 2014 at 09:44)

    Oops! Double post.
    Please ignore the duplicate post.
    thx

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    Ashok from Sri Lanka
    Spanking children? Oh no not in the 21st century (April 19th, 2014 at 10:16)

    Spanking children? Oh no not in the 21st century

    I cannot help but gasp with unbelief that there are still parents and teachers who believe in spanking their children in this century

    I have just finished teaching a batch of primary school teachers. The module is titled “discipline and guidance” the Text book used for the course was written by Majorie Fields titled “constructive guidance and discipline” I quote from p 221 of the text book
    “We hope that punishment will cease to be considered a reasonable means of discipline. We believe that when parents and teachers understand the dangers of punishment and learn more effective approaches to child guidance the world will become a better place.
    There will be fewer angry people, who need to get even with society through violence. There will be fewer people who have come to believe they are worthless. There will be less dishonesty and less energy being spent to avoid getting caught
    Personal inner control and concern for others will become the norm among morally autonomous people
    And in page 327
    When we respect children we help them to respect themselves. The resultant self esteem combines with self discipline skills to create morally autonomous people
    Something our society needs
    I highly recommend to those who still believe in spanking your children, this book and if possible take a course on discipline and guidance which will be widely available in your countries

    Spanking children? Oh no not in the 21st century

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    Brian
    How do Amish discipline children? (May 16th, 2014 at 14:32)

    Both of my parents were Amish as children, and my mother was an evil abuser to me, both physically and verbally!
    But whether the spanking Amish parent is abusive or not; he or she is demonstrating inconsistent beliefs! The Amish left/ran away from their country of origin due to religious persecution. They therefore did not passively submit to authority, and they rightfully displayed their strong will by leaving. They did not stay until the authority figure had beat them into submission or broken spirit. Yet some of these people who believe in being passive use violence against children.
    I have likewise watched those You-Tube Amish videos where the father was gentle and loving to his family, and I applaud them!
    Far too many Americans still believe that it is O.K. to hit children who are far smaller than themselves. Lets reverse things here for a moment. How should the adult child treat his aged and mentally weak parent who acts childish? Should he hit his parent to teach him a lesson?
    How about the grouchy person in a wheelchair? Do you get grouchy back, and escalate the encounter with hitting? Do that and he will sue you after you get out of jail. The child is thus far more defenseless than even a handicapped person, because he can’t sue you and he needs to be housed and fed.
    Treat your children as if they are future adults who need to learn the logical reasons for things, because that really is what they are.

    How do Amish discipline children?

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