8 responses to Can Amish marry non-Amish?
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    Lee Ann
    Comment on Can Amish marry non-Amish? (April 28th, 2012 at 09:39)

    I can understand why they only want the Amish to marry within their church, but it could bring in new blood to help things if they allowed members to marry outsiders.

    I think it could work if the two respected the difference in religon(sp?) and worked to make their relationship strong. I was in a marriage where there were two different religions.

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    Comment on Never say never but to this- (April 28th, 2012 at 13:45)

    Never say never but to this-

    Sorry Lee Ann, I usually will not say never say never but this will never happen. I can’t ever see the Amish budging on this and they have a silo full of reasons why and would not look at it that way at all, (as beneficial). Even in their own church, if you’re not thinking Amish enough, they could send you away to get counseling to get more Amish minded (or be asked to leave-yep, happened to my Amish born friend) so any challenge to the mentallity or belief already there is seen as divisive.

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      Traci Banville
      Comment on Leave the alone. (November 10th, 2012 at 23:46)

      Leave the alone.

      The Amish have not survived this long by mixing with outsiders. Visit the areas, buy their products, enjoy your vacation and then go home. If you want to change your life, turn over a new leaf, renew your faith, etc. then find another church near you. Try the Jehovah’s Witnesses.They will take anyone, the more “sinful” the better. They love to recruit.
      Being Amish is not just a religion, it is a lifestyle, a history.
      People do not just up and decide that they want to be Hasidic Jews because they have seen a film or read a book. I see no difference in people “wanting to be Amish”.
      A close friend wanted to be a nun for most of her life but she had been raised Protestant (though she had never been baptized). She wrote letters, visited Catholic churches and a convent, studied and practiced and then lost count of how many people talked her out of it. She was told that she would have to convert to Catholicism first but that even if she did, there was no guarantee that she would be able to become a nun, that it would take too long, she was too old to start, etc. etc. etc. And yet you will read that divorced women with children have become nuns. She is a very good person, has a clean history, but cannot “get her foot in the door”. It has broken her heart. If the Catholics are this closed-minded, why would people expect the Amish to have an open door policy ? In the case of the Amish, I do not blame them.

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        Comment on Can Amish marry non-Amish? (June 23rd, 2013 at 22:06)

        Traci I think you said it well. I’m also interested in the many parallels between Amish and Jewish practices. Like Amish, Jews are a distinct culture as well as a religion. Like Amish, Jews also circumscribe marriage with outside – at least the Orthodox communities do. Reform Judaism — like mainstream Protestants — is more open to the practice.

        I agree that it would be almost impossible to keep up Amish cultural practices in a mixed Amish/non-Amish household.

        I also think being a religious minority even within the areas they have settled is important. The effect of a handful of, say, Catholics marrying Protestants is unlikely to be perceived as a threat to either religion. But with a group as tiny as the Amish, out-marriage has real consequences on the stability of the church district itself.

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          Michelle Smith
          Comment on Been there Done that... (April 20th, 2017 at 16:08)

          Been there Done that...

          My dad was a Baptist preacher’s son, and married my mom, who was from a very strict Roman Catholic family in the 1960’s. It was perceived as a threat to BOTH religions by both of my grandmothers! John F Kennedy had just become the nation’s 1st Catholic president at that time. My sister and i were both christened in the Catholic church as babies, and Mom converted to Protestant on her own accord a few years later, but my Grandma (her mother) always had a problem with it, and always tried to convert my sister and me in the corner – haha. I grew up associated with and respecting both religions, but my husband and I are practicing Protestants.

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        Comment on Can Amish marry non-Amish? (November 18th, 2016 at 09:50)

        The Jehovah’s witnesses are probablythe best that there is. I studied with them for over 20 years.

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      Comment on still trying to marry AMISH WOMAN (July 6th, 2013 at 03:52)

      still trying to marry AMISH WOMAN

      Valerie, I see what you mean in this scenario. I am old fashioned to the core. I have been pursuing my quest for many years, Finally looks like I have made some progress but not there yet, Amish Lady invited me to her church and to meet her father and folks. I was very warmly welcomed at their church. I will have to dance with so many of them first. (a figure of speech), I am ready and willing to move right in to their area and have already found some property and a house with in 1 mile of their church. Wish me Luck folks. Love that ‘give me old time religion’

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    Don Curtis
    Comment on Mark's answer (July 6th, 2013 at 12:43)

    Mark's answer

    I asked my son, Mark, about this. He said that Amish can and do marry people who have come to the Amish from the “Outside.” They do not, however, marry people who are not members of the Amish church. They wouldn’t be Amish, anymore, themselves if they did because they’d be excommunicated from the church. Mark knows a number of Amish who have married people of non-Amish backgrounds who became Amish. They key thing is they became Amish. As for Leo, Mark wonders about his motivation. Why does he want an Amish wife? If he doesn’t join he will take her from her church, family, and people. If he does want to join the Amish then he needs to do it because he is in agreement with their faith and beliefs. That must be the primary motivation. Marriage is only secondary.

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