15 responses to When do Amish get married?
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    Lee Ann
    When do Amish get married? (April 28th, 2012 at 09:44)

    With so many of the Amish marrying cousin’s and having health issue’s with children, it would help to allow them to marry outside the faith. Bring in new blood and work with the couple to make the marriage work with two religons in the family.

    This would also help the older people to marry again. Being older your more open to different people and can allow more things.

    I would be willing to marry an Amish man, if I were a widow.

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      Traci Banville
      When do Amish get married? (November 10th, 2012 at 23:52)

      @ Lee Ann- There are plenty of Amish so they do not “need” to add others. Do you not think that outsiders would bring along their own genetic history that could just add more trouble ?
      When did the Amish become the new members of the “dating pool” ?
      I think this entire thing is becoming ridiculous !

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        sarah
        REALLY??? (August 1st, 2013 at 07:46)

        REALLY???

        You sound more disgusted by the idea then you are interested in offering a logical view point. I met a guy in passing who was a surprisingly good looking man from the Amish community. He created the interest I now have in Amish customs. And living in the country for a while helps me see the appeal of that kind of life. Not every Amish will marry a family member, or have exactly the same life style choices as the last one. If you met some one who spoke to your soul rather then your mind, I think you might be surprised by how you feel. There are enough amish in the world, but not enough decent people. Not to mention, the amish are very earth friendly. We could all take a few things from them. I personally would infuse my healthy eating with their beliefs if I could. Animal lard is not desirable for cooking, but saving money on electricity and gas is.

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    Mary
    Marriage and Divorce (May 11th, 2012 at 18:29)

    Marriage and Divorce

    I know a widow can marry another widow and I know Amish frown greatly on divorce but can a divorce Amish man marry a divorced lady without being shunned? What if the divorced lady is not Amish but wants to become Amish, is it accepted then?

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      Glenda Yoder
      Re: Marriage & Divorce (September 14th, 2012 at 13:14)

      Re: Marriage & Divorce

      I was born Amish and, even though my parents left the Amish church when I was small, I’ve lived in Amish communities my whole life. I’ve never heard of any Amish couples that have divorced (even though some couples will just separate but never officially divorce). If an Amish couple would divorce they would be shunned or ex communicated and remarriage after divorce is considered even worse than divorce itself. The man would be shunned even if the lady would want to join the Amish. Hope this answered your question!

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      stephanie
      When do Amish get married? (November 15th, 2012 at 12:45)

      An answer to the question on divorce. Absolutely no way a divorced person can marry! Even another divorced person. We are Beachy Amish Mennonite and we would not have that either. Most churches would not

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    Erin
    When do Amish get married? (November 8th, 2012 at 12:21)

    Are Amish able to marry another Amish person from another district? Do parents encourage their children to court one another?

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      naomi
      When do Amish get married? (November 9th, 2012 at 17:37)

      there are a lot of Amish that end up finding their spouses in other states and communities.
      Not sure on that second ? if you mean as in brother/ sister courting!, which would not be considered or encouraged.

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        Erin
        When do Amish get married? (November 9th, 2012 at 17:42)

        Thanks Naomi! I was thinking of a newer community and there are only 50 members so I was wondering how they would find someone to court when the nearest district is 2 hours away.
        The second question I was wondering if women perhaps in a circle of letters suggest their two children courting.

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        Erin
        When do Amish get married? (November 9th, 2012 at 17:56)

        I recently met an 18 year old Amish man and he was starting to grow a beard. His Dad said he was not married but that he had been baptized so that was why he was growing a beard. My Mother-in-law always thought it was when you were married. Does this vary from district to district?

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          Linda
          When do Amish get married? (November 9th, 2012 at 21:13)

          Erin, I too have seen some unmarried, baptized young men with trimmed beards. After they marry, the beards lengthen. It probably varies with different districts, but it may also vary from by-gone years with the newfangled generation.

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            Erin
            When do Amish get married? (November 9th, 2012 at 21:18)

            I emailed an ex-Amish and he said that when men are baptized they are expected to have a trimmed beard and then they never cut it once they’re married. He said its easy for the single women to know which men are baptized and which are married without asking.

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    Dennis Brayshaw
    Rigid Digit (November 8th, 2012 at 14:25)

    Rigid Digit

    One thing I see in pictures regarding the Amish I find normal as the next persons lifestyle. It isn’t my place of course to condemn anyone for not wanting to have their pictures taken. However, the frequent use of the “high digit” or throwing the finger, as we call it, is found throughout pictures that I see on-line. I find it humorous mostly, though I don’t think the elders of the faith would agree with me. I see even the children doing it, even as young as six years old. I would think that folks who take an interest in your way of life should be granted the privelege of corresponding or sharing friendships with members of your community without feeling like outsiders. We are all headed toward the same end. I know that only Christ “has the words of eternal life” and that is where I place my trust, same as the Amish. The simplicity of your lifestyle is what interests folks and maybe the dull clothing catches their eyes. Christ would that we all come to the knowledge of the truth and not necessarily by tradition. Like my wife always tells me “we all meet at the light.” Peace

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    tlc_501
    Marriage (December 4th, 2012 at 20:06)

    Marriage

    So lets say a guy has left the Amish community, and he meets a non amish girl and they decide to get married. Would the guys Amish parents be able to come to the wedding. How does that work?

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      When do Amish get married? (December 5th, 2012 at 12:00)

      Short answer is it depends on the circumstances of his “leaving”…were he never baptized he is not going to be excommunicated so you could see his Amish parents at the wedding. If he is excommunicated may depend on the family as some Amish maintain closer ties than others with those in the Bann. Some would not attend, others might.

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