26 responses to When do Amish get married?
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    Lee Ann
    Comment on When do Amish get married? (April 28th, 2012 at 09:44)

    With so many of the Amish marrying cousin’s and having health issue’s with children, it would help to allow them to marry outside the faith. Bring in new blood and work with the couple to make the marriage work with two religons in the family.

    This would also help the older people to marry again. Being older your more open to different people and can allow more things.

    I would be willing to marry an Amish man, if I were a widow.

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      Traci Banville
      Comment on When do Amish get married? (November 10th, 2012 at 23:52)

      @ Lee Ann- There are plenty of Amish so they do not “need” to add others. Do you not think that outsiders would bring along their own genetic history that could just add more trouble ?
      When did the Amish become the new members of the “dating pool” ?
      I think this entire thing is becoming ridiculous !

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        Comment on REALLY??? (August 1st, 2013 at 07:46)


        You sound more disgusted by the idea then you are interested in offering a logical view point. I met a guy in passing who was a surprisingly good looking man from the Amish community. He created the interest I now have in Amish customs. And living in the country for a while helps me see the appeal of that kind of life. Not every Amish will marry a family member, or have exactly the same life style choices as the last one. If you met some one who spoke to your soul rather then your mind, I think you might be surprised by how you feel. There are enough amish in the world, but not enough decent people. Not to mention, the amish are very earth friendly. We could all take a few things from them. I personally would infuse my healthy eating with their beliefs if I could. Animal lard is not desirable for cooking, but saving money on electricity and gas is.

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          Michael Y.
          Comment on Fantasy Life (February 19th, 2015 at 16:08)

          Fantasy Life

          Would you be willing to give up your identity as an individual for that “simpler” life you think the Amish live? The reasoning behind so many peoples enchantment with the Amish never seems to amaze me. It takes more than love, organic living and a simple life to make it as Amish. Marrying an Amish man means the woman bows down to the husband and church, you have no voice.

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      Comment on Eh?? (February 15th, 2017 at 04:20)


      Is your husband aware of that? Should he be worried? Is that an attempt to solicit assistance?

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        Mark — Holmes Co.
        Comment on When do Amish get married? (February 15th, 2017 at 08:44)

        James, you made me laugh out loud. 🙂

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    Comment on Marriage and Divorce (May 11th, 2012 at 18:29)

    Marriage and Divorce

    I know a widow can marry another widow and I know Amish frown greatly on divorce but can a divorce Amish man marry a divorced lady without being shunned? What if the divorced lady is not Amish but wants to become Amish, is it accepted then?

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      Glenda Yoder
      Comment on Re: Marriage & Divorce (September 14th, 2012 at 13:14)

      Re: Marriage & Divorce

      I was born Amish and, even though my parents left the Amish church when I was small, I’ve lived in Amish communities my whole life. I’ve never heard of any Amish couples that have divorced (even though some couples will just separate but never officially divorce). If an Amish couple would divorce they would be shunned or ex communicated and remarriage after divorce is considered even worse than divorce itself. The man would be shunned even if the lady would want to join the Amish. Hope this answered your question!

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        Comment on Family leaving the church. (April 23rd, 2017 at 15:03)

        Family leaving the church.

        My family left the church( Webster County Iowa, moved to quincy mich ) I was very young (4) just wondering how many children of these families have struggled with there identity like my self for so many years! Always knowing that you were different ?

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      Comment on When do Amish get married? (November 15th, 2012 at 12:45)

      An answer to the question on divorce. Absolutely no way a divorced person can marry! Even another divorced person. We are Beachy Amish Mennonite and we would not have that either. Most churches would not

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    Comment on When do Amish get married? (November 8th, 2012 at 12:21)

    Are Amish able to marry another Amish person from another district? Do parents encourage their children to court one another?

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      Comment on When do Amish get married? (November 9th, 2012 at 17:37)

      there are a lot of Amish that end up finding their spouses in other states and communities.
      Not sure on that second ? if you mean as in brother/ sister courting!, which would not be considered or encouraged.

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        Comment on When do Amish get married? (November 9th, 2012 at 17:42)

        Thanks Naomi! I was thinking of a newer community and there are only 50 members so I was wondering how they would find someone to court when the nearest district is 2 hours away.
        The second question I was wondering if women perhaps in a circle of letters suggest their two children courting.

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        Comment on When do Amish get married? (November 9th, 2012 at 17:56)

        I recently met an 18 year old Amish man and he was starting to grow a beard. His Dad said he was not married but that he had been baptized so that was why he was growing a beard. My Mother-in-law always thought it was when you were married. Does this vary from district to district?

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          Comment on When do Amish get married? (November 9th, 2012 at 21:13)

          Erin, I too have seen some unmarried, baptized young men with trimmed beards. After they marry, the beards lengthen. It probably varies with different districts, but it may also vary from by-gone years with the newfangled generation.

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            Comment on When do Amish get married? (November 9th, 2012 at 21:18)

            I emailed an ex-Amish and he said that when men are baptized they are expected to have a trimmed beard and then they never cut it once they’re married. He said its easy for the single women to know which men are baptized and which are married without asking.

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    Dennis Brayshaw
    Comment on Rigid Digit (November 8th, 2012 at 14:25)

    Rigid Digit

    One thing I see in pictures regarding the Amish I find normal as the next persons lifestyle. It isn’t my place of course to condemn anyone for not wanting to have their pictures taken. However, the frequent use of the “high digit” or throwing the finger, as we call it, is found throughout pictures that I see on-line. I find it humorous mostly, though I don’t think the elders of the faith would agree with me. I see even the children doing it, even as young as six years old. I would think that folks who take an interest in your way of life should be granted the privelege of corresponding or sharing friendships with members of your community without feeling like outsiders. We are all headed toward the same end. I know that only Christ “has the words of eternal life” and that is where I place my trust, same as the Amish. The simplicity of your lifestyle is what interests folks and maybe the dull clothing catches their eyes. Christ would that we all come to the knowledge of the truth and not necessarily by tradition. Like my wife always tells me “we all meet at the light.” Peace

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    Comment on Marriage (December 4th, 2012 at 20:06)


    So lets say a guy has left the Amish community, and he meets a non amish girl and they decide to get married. Would the guys Amish parents be able to come to the wedding. How does that work?

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      Comment on When do Amish get married? (December 5th, 2012 at 12:00)

      Short answer is it depends on the circumstances of his “leaving”…were he never baptized he is not going to be excommunicated so you could see his Amish parents at the wedding. If he is excommunicated may depend on the family as some Amish maintain closer ties than others with those in the Bann. Some would not attend, others might.

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    Comment on When do Amish get married? (December 16th, 2015 at 16:06)

    Tlc.. it would be highly unlikely for a family to attend an ex Amish sons wedding, especially if they had already joined church. We still don’t get the same Christmas cards, we get seperated ones. One for my husband and children and one for myself. They will not except we are a family, even years later. I am sometimes insulted but it’s their way.

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      Mark – Holmes County
      Comment on When do Amish get married? (December 17th, 2015 at 07:47)

      Again this is something that can and does vary a lot. Having attended several weddings of nieces and nephews who were no longer Amish I can assure you it happens. In our setting NOT going would look like the family harsh or bitter.
      Because, I’m not doubting you, but I have never heard of anything so rude! That’s just sad….

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        Mark – Holmes County
        Comment on Ooops! (December 17th, 2015 at 19:52)


        I have tried to respond numerous times today but keep getting “security check failed.” Is it because I’m traveling and not on the work computer I usually use? This one keeps auto correcting spelling and not always with what I meant. On my last comment the second paragraph was supposed to begin with Beckysue, not “because.” Sorry, Beckysue! Also I either wrote too quickly or deleted the idea it is very rude to exclude a family member from a Christmas greeting and that is what struck me as surprising and rude.
        With some people feeling they have been treated rudely on here, it was bothering me to feel my comment might have come across as rude to Beckysue, so I hope this will actually go through this time.

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          Comment on When do Amish get married? (December 17th, 2015 at 20:44)

          Sorry Mark, was testing an anti-spam setting which is apparently too aggressive 🙂 I’ve turned it off now so you shouldn’t see that anymore. Apologies for any trouble.

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    Comment on I'm confused (January 8th, 2017 at 16:00)

    I'm confused

    I don’t understand some of the comments here. Some of you seem to believe that you can join an Amish community by marriage and take what you like and discard what you don’t like. I am not Amish, but it is my understanding that religion is so deeply an integral part of the culture that you can not be Amish unless you are willing to adhere to ALL of the traditions. To understand this, just look at the way the Amish regard the rest of the world. They do not look down on anyone nor do they try to convert anyone to their ways. They simply separate themselves into peaceful communities. If someone has an idea of what might work better for YOU, I suggest that you go ahead and do that, but leave the Amish people and their traditions alone. There are plenty of men and women in the world to date and/or marry without disrupting a community with the presumption that they even require change.

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    Comment on When do Amish get married? (July 26th, 2017 at 02:23)

    Amish girls seem nice, they look like they know how to cover up and actually respect themselves and God. Wish we had more people like that in today’s society 🙁

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