Family Life, in print since 1968, is one of the most widely-read Amish publications (circulation for 2010 was a reported 31,000).  You won’t find Family Life in all Amish homes, but you will in many, if not a majority of Amish households.

Family Life Plain Amish PublicationOne of the most interesting  parts of the periodical is a regular feature called “The Problem Corner”.   It’s essentially an advice column where readers generate the answers to a question or issue posed by a fellow reader.

“The Problem Corner” appears once every 2 or 3 months and features one question and usually 6-10 responses (and sometimes more).  They are sometimes narrow issues, but more often general problems of wider concern.

Questions may be directed to Amish readers, or more often, couched in a manner in which they can apply to all Christians.

Cornering Problems

Here are a few examples from the past year’s worth of issues, along with excerpts of some of the answers:

1) Can anyone explain the difference between forgiving oneself for past mistakes or merely excusing oneself? (February 2013)

  • “The phrase “forgiving yourself”, like many popular phrases, is somewhat misleading.  Forgiveness is about relationships.  When a person asks forgiveness and receives it, a relationship is restored.  This is not something that operates within a person.”
  • “It is with deepest sympathy that I pick up my pen to write.  Until recently, I battled with just the thing you described…I found no relief until I was treated for depression.  Then the relief was unbelievable.”
  • “In forgiving, it is imperative to be honest with God and with oneself about the facts.  Then we must accept God’s grace and forgiveness as being for us personally.  When we accept that God has forgiven us and we believe that He loves us truly, it makes it much easier to “forgive” ourselves.”

2) In our community many people make a living building fancy homes for the wealthy.  Many of these jobs are gotten through contacts with designers and architects who include eye-pleasing extras in the latest trends.  Is this violating our Christian principles? … There seems to be a popular mindset that if we build something for those outside the church, and take no pride in it, there is nothing wrong with doing so, regardless what it is.  Is it still possible to live humbly as pilgrims and strangers if we have such an occupation? (August/September 2012)

  • “In answer to your question, I find it a gift of God to be a craftsman, although we are in carpentry instead of cabinetry…There are some occupations that most of our people would agree to stay away from.  For instance, would we make race cars, slot machines or tables for gambling?  Would we make poker cards, or build a gambling hall? Should we make whiskey barrels?”
  • “Christians should never be found growing, building, or marketing a product that is contrary to a godly life.   If we labor to feed the lusts and idolatry of the world, we are no better than Demetrius, who crafted shrines for the goddess Diana.  See Acts 19.”

3) Is it right to discipline or correct someone else’s child in front of the mother in the child’s own home?  Maybe she thinks the parents aren’t doing their duty, but is it in her place to train other people’s children? (November 2012)

  • “A mother cannot successfully discipline her children if another person steps in and does it for her.” 
  • “When done within our extended family, correcting each other’s children to me represents a strong family bond and a common goal.”
  • “I don’t quite know how to feel about telling children to behave.  After all, I don’t have any of my own.  But I would want other people to make mine behave.”

In past years “Problem Corner” issues have included natural remedies, gender imbalance in Amish settlements, reporting crimes to the authorities, multi-level marketing, and ministerial involvement in cases of domestic abuse.

Wisdom from a wide “community”

Since Family Life is read by Amish of many different affiliations, as well as Mennonites and non-Amish, the answers printed will vary, and there is not always (or even often) agreement on the best course of action.

Family Life Problem Corner ColumnThus you get a pretty good feel for the idea that there is rarely one “Amish opinion” on most issues outside of core beliefs like non-resistance and adult baptism.

Since some letters are anonymous, you can’t always tell who the Amish respondents are, but you can often get an idea from the response itself. Frequently readers will share from their own experiences, especially if it is an issue with which they have also struggled.

The idea of “Amish community” is something we often think of on the level of church and settlement. With “The Problem Corner” we have an example of Amish tapping into a wider “Amish community” which spans the magazine’s large readership.   Interestingly it is one which also incorporates ideas from non-Amish, though often similarly-minded people.