8 responses to An Amish Couple Discuss the Role of Women (Audio)
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    Comment on Equal Stature, Different Roles (July 31st, 2017 at 09:09)

    Equal Stature, Different Roles

    All players on a football team are equal. All employees in a company are equal.

    However, there are different roles required. Different skills required.

    A marriage requires teamwork.

    Sure, I can cook; pretty well in fact. I can also do my own laundry and take care of myself in other ways. It’s because my mother taught me how to be self-sufficient at a young age.

    My wife can do many of the things I can do outside also. There are a few things that require extra strength and more experience along the lines of what I have. It’s tough for her to wield a 28″ chainsaw which also makes it a bit dangerous.

    At the same time, I don’t really have the patience for things like sewing or changing diapers or dealing with the bulk of our kids’ homeschooling needs.

    Overall, we are a team. We decide who will do what and, more importantly, help each other out wherever we can.

    Also, when we both disagree on something but a decision MUST be made, we have agreed that we will go with what I decide. Not because I am better or worse but because God is holding me accountable and responsible for the safety and welfare of this family.

    If I make the wrong decision, then I have to deal with those consequences, etc.

    It’s not a win-lose situation between spouses. It should be a win-win to the glory of God.

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    Comment on Well said (July 31st, 2017 at 11:15)

    Well said

    ‘Very well said, Daniel. I couldn’t agree with you more.

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    Comment on Headship ORDER is a good way to describe it. (July 31st, 2017 at 11:50)

    Headship ORDER is a good way to describe it.

    I love the term Headship order. I as a woman need a man to protect me and my family. That is the way it is for me as a Catholic Family. I Truly cannot imagine my life without having this male protector around. There are so many times I need someone stronger and braver to do the things in life that I as a woman would find more difficult to do.

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      Comment on Is true in the animal world (August 1st, 2017 at 00:42)

      Is true in the animal world

      Watch a flock of geese or chickens. The male is always watching the females and surroundings. He protects. She raises the offspring. Is true with humans (or should be). Possibly, if English families did without so much “stuff”, they too could live without so much stress from money & time.

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    Comment on Amish Couple discuss the Role of Women (July 31st, 2017 at 12:26)

    Amish Couple discuss the Role of Women

    The Headship order is a representation of God…
    IN the Bible there were Women who were used mighty by God…
    SICH as Deborah the Prophetess of the O.T. & Ruth & Naomi..
    IN the N.T. The Mother Mary (Acts) Day of Pentecost..
    Anna the Prophetess.. Phoebe & Martha and Lydia +
    Dorcas (Apostle Paul trusted her)etc…

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    Comment on An Amish Couple Discuss the Role of Women (Audio) (August 1st, 2017 at 20:30)

    What are these Amish in Fort Convington, NY?

    They look Swartzentruber, but the buggy doesn’t

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    Comment on A Big Turnoff (August 2nd, 2017 at 03:31)

    A Big Turnoff

    It was nice to hear the idea of partnership, communication and decision-making together! They seem to be happy with the way things are and that is all that matters.

    However, I could not be in a marriage where the man always has the last word, nor where I always have the last word on any given issue. The idea that women must submit (and that word is used a lot) to their husbands – not only makes me uneasy of an imbalance in the relationship, it does seem it can have a ring of abuse to it. I wonder how many Amish men take that word very literally and lord over their wives. I remember that account of the Amish woman in the documentary The Amish (PBS) where her husband took that word “submit” to a horrible extreme and when she reported domestic abuse to the Ministers they replied “What did you do to make your husband treat you like that?”. It sickened her – and me too just hearing that.

    Lancaster Online did a 5 part series on the abuse some women endure in silence and without support of any kind (all because of that word – submit) and it is as heart wrenching as can be. There are no statistics on domestic abuse among the Amish/Mennonite women – but some say it’s the same, if not more than the general population, which is too much. After reading that – I think all this talk about submitting leads to a culture of silence, horrific suffering and shame and blame on the women in the relationships. I wonder if that word leads men to think they have carte blanche more often than in the non-Amish world.

    Using the word submit as a metaphor for Christ is one thing – but lording that word over women with abuse is another.

    The couple in the interview seem to be mostly in balance and happy, and that may be for the majority of Amish men and women. I hope so. But I hope that the ministers and bishops of the Amish now have found a different way to approach domestic abuse than to automatically blame the wife/victim of these crimes.

    What it comes down to is submitting to God and Christ by living a Christian life with their partner. And like the couple interviewed, with respect to each other, communication in decision making and with the Holy Spirit guiding both the husband and wife.

    Here is the first part of that series…

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    Comment on An Amish Couple Discuss the Role of Women (Audio) (August 2nd, 2017 at 22:02)

    New Amish population study was released.

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